Sibling Ties

This Wednesday, I’m spending the day at a casino.  Believe it or not, this will be the first time I’ve ever set foot in one.  It’s not that I have anything against gambling.  To me, it’s just another form of recreation.  I don’t have an addictive bone in my body (other than for food), so it’s not likely to become a vice.  I’m going for the food, the free drinks, and maybe for the cheap thrill I’ll enjoy pretending I might actually win a few bucks.  I’m going mostly because my little sister asked me if I wanted to go.

Sis and I don’t do a lot together.  She’s seven years younger than me.  We couldn’t be more different.  She takes after my mom.  I don’t know how much of it has to do with them both being the “baby” of the family.  I take after my dad’s side of the family.  When they say opposites attract, that was my mom and dad they were talking about.

I like to keep a low profile;  Sis likes to be noticed.  I love rock and alternative music;  Sis is into country and pop.  I’m a homebody and she likes to go out.  I had sons;  she had daughters.  She hates math, avoids computers, and when she was married, had absolutely no idea about the family’s finances.  Lucky she has me to help her now.

Even though we’re so different and don’t hang out all that much, there’s no doubt that we’re close.  She’s my sister and I’ll always be there for her.  I know she’ll always be there for me, too.  Whenever something exciting happens to one of my kids, you’d think it was her kid.  She screamed as loudly as I did when Oldest Son won his spelling bees and scholarships.  She brags about them and worries like a second mother when they do scary things, like join the Army.  I feel the same about her kids.   And I never fail to dispense my big sisterly advice.

What forms these family ties?  It’s not that we had tons of shared experiences growing up.  She was too young to hang out with my brother and I playing wiffle ball and riding bikes.  She was just the pesky little tween, more interested in our brother’s teen-aged friends, when I came home during college breaks.  We would probably never, even now, choose each other as friends.  But the family bond is there.  I see this with my boys, too.  You would have trouble finding three more diverse personalities, and yet they share a bond and a loyalty that’s hard to find.

It all kind of makes up for how annoying siblings can sometimes be.

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22 Responses to “Sibling Ties”


  1. 1 Michelle - Nathan's Mom August 11, 2009 at 8:20 am

    Take 20 bucks, when it’s gone, you’re done. That way you don’t have to spend any more time (or money) than you want to. And enjoy your sister-bonding day!!

    • 2 les@mamaneeds2rant August 11, 2009 at 9:31 am

      Yep, I’m too cheap to throw away a bunch of money. I’m resigned to the fact that I’m not one of those “lucky” big winner types and I’m not about to give some rich casino owners too much of our hard-earned cash. Hmmm, wonder if my negative attitude has anything to do with why I never hit any big jackpots?

  2. 3 Cyndi August 11, 2009 at 9:32 am

    I love this post! My only sister is 8 years younger. We couldn’t be more different but we’re best friends. We sometimes say we share a brain. She always gives me crap for ignoring her when we lived at home, but just like you said, that age difference is huge. When I was 16, she was 8! What the hell did we have in common then? I don’t know how these family ties work but I’m so happy they do. And have fun gambling! It’s the one vice that I am not addicted to but do still enjoy a lot on the rare occasion that I go. I can’t believe you’ve never been! This must also mean that you’ve never been to Vegas?! How can this be? 🙂

    • 4 les@mamaneeds2rant August 11, 2009 at 9:39 am

      Nope, never been to Vegas and never had any desire. I always think of cheesy lounge lizards and tacky singers–but I’ve heard even if you’re not a gambler, the sights are worth seeing. And my sister said the shows are fantastic–but then again, we have totally different taste so who knows.
      You and your sister seem so close–I would have never guessed there’s that big of an age difference.

  3. 5 Consuella Banana Hammock August 11, 2009 at 9:49 am

    my parents used to say that my sister and i would fight over whether the sun was up or not. night and day we are. she insists we are not from the same gene pool. but as kids, when that sun went down, you couldn’t keep us out of the same bed. we would talk and giggle until we couldn’t keep our eyes open anymore. we are still a bit like that…hot and cold but i love her and wouldn’t trade her for anything.

  4. 6 Tammy August 11, 2009 at 5:52 pm

    I would highly recommend Vegas. Even if you don’t like to gamble, there is shopping, shows of sorts, and the best people watching. I can only imagine what people thought when my sister broke her collar bone when we were there for her 21st b-day.

    My brother and I are 18 months a part. As kids we fought like cats and dogs. We did everything from chase each other around with knives to screaming. We did not get along. Our relationship changed dramatically in our late 20’s. We are great friends now and fiercly protective of each other.

    Our sister is 14 years younger. She is in her 20’s now and doing her own thing…discovering the world. We do not have much in common right now, but we are still very close.

    I could not imagine life without either one of them.

    p.s. Play the Wheel of Fortune slot machine…SOOO fun!

    • 7 les@mamaneeds2rant August 11, 2009 at 6:12 pm

      I think I’ll wait and see how much I lose tomorrow before making any Vegas plans 🙂

      I love to hear everyone’s sibling stories! I think it’s easier to bond when you grow up close in age and I’m so glad my boys had so many shared experiences which will help keep them close–but it’s nice to hear that bond is there even there when you fight like cats and dogs or even when there’s a big age gap.

  5. 8 Chris August 11, 2009 at 6:37 pm

    Mama’s going gambling? Lordy lord. =P

  6. 9 robinaltman August 11, 2009 at 10:08 pm

    I’ve always wanted a sister. I’ve essentially adopted my sister-in-laws as sisters. I have a younger brother who I mercilessly tortured throughout our childhood. Miraculously, we’re good friends now. He’s a very forgiving soul.

    I’ve been to Atlantic City several times to humor my husband and friends. I have the most fun if I memorize the rules to blackjack before I go. Then I can stay at the blackjack table for awhile before I lose my allotted amount. I figure that’s the price of entertainment. The slots are the worst. They eat your money and give little fun.

    • 10 les@mamaneeds2rant August 11, 2009 at 11:03 pm

      OMG. You have to memorize rules? I’m toast. Probably the only thing I’ll be able to DO are the slots. Plus, I’ll feel so dumb playing against all the pro gamblers and card counters. Lord, what am I getting into??

  7. 11 Nicole August 11, 2009 at 10:51 pm

    It’s amazing how a brother/sister relationship can change over time. My brother is 4 years behind me and I used to do everything I could to get him in trouble… even when he was a baby and incapable of doing the things I accused him of. But now, we’re always there for each other. He’s been here every time I’ve moved (and that has been quite frequent). I sometimes forget that I’m the older one (partially because I’m a foot shorter). But you know, no matter what other crap goes on in life, your siblings are always going to be there.

    As for gambling… yeah. I don’t know if i have an addictive personality because I have a short attention span. I was in a casino once because the Buster made us have our 4th quarter pep rally in Niagra Falls. I lost my $5 in about five minutes. I can now say that I have tried it and have no desire to do it again. Maybe if I had better luck.

    • 12 les@mamaneeds2rant August 12, 2009 at 8:21 am

      Thanks for commenting, Nicole. I stopped by your blog the other night and tried to make a comment but it wouldn’t let me. I don’t know why some Blogger accounts will let me comment, and a lot of other ones won’t.

  8. 13 Cyndi August 12, 2009 at 10:26 am

    Nicole – I had the same problem. Any chance everyone on Blogspot can move over to wordpress. The comments are such a pain but I follow so many that I have to suck it up and deal with it….unless we can start a movement to get them all to switch over….. 🙂

  9. 14 Tammy August 12, 2009 at 6:40 pm

    Completely off topic here but….what are the differences between WordPress and Blogspot? Benefits, etc?

    If there is a better forum for this question let me know, but I have been wondering for awhile because a lot of the blogs I read have been making the move.

    • 15 les@mamaneeds2rant August 12, 2009 at 6:59 pm

      I don’t know. My son is on Blogspot and they allow him to put google ads on his site, but you can’t with wordpress unless you pay, I think. I can comment on your blog but some of my other faves on Blogspot won’t let me and it drives me crazy when I really want to say something. WordPress is really easy, not many problems with it, and I can see comments others made after me on other wordpress blogs without switching from my site. As far as Blogger, I don’t know enough personally about it. Maybe someone else knows the pros and cons?

  10. 16 Cyndi August 12, 2009 at 7:21 pm

    Right, wordpress.com does not allow ads. WordPress.org (self-hosted does). You have to register your domain and pay a small monthly fee to a hosting site but you still get all the great benefits of wordpress (free themes, plugins, etc). My biggest problem with blogger and blogspot are the pain in ass comments. They’re time consuming plus you can’t subscribe to them so you never know if/when anyone responds. IMHO WordPress is the only way to go.

  11. 17 Nicole August 12, 2009 at 10:01 pm

    So how was the gambling? I am mostly oblivious to many things going on and it didn’t completely dawn on me that you guys were on different sites. I went with blogspot because I was reading the Unholy Revolt and I realized I was tired of not being able to blog. (Why do some people have to be crazy/stalkerish?!?!) It has come in quite handy to be using the same site as your oldest son as I had to use him for technical help the other day.

  12. 19 Cyndi August 12, 2009 at 11:18 pm

    Yay! Gambling is fun, isn’t it? My immature BFFs are hooked on a FB game where they play slots and keep sending each other free credits, etc. You should see them when they are gambling with actual money! 🙂

    • 20 les@mamaneeds2rant August 12, 2009 at 11:21 pm

      Haha. It’s definitely more fun with real money. I was so excited when I cashed in my $53 voucher from that stupid penny game. I can still hear that music in my head from that game LOL. I can see how someone with an addictive personality could get hooked. Even I think I’ll go back again.

  13. 21 Bill Bartmann September 2, 2009 at 1:33 am

    Excellent site, keep up the good work

  14. 22 Rakeback September 7, 2009 at 10:57 am

    I know the fun that one will enjoy there for the first time.But be careful about the traps there.


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